MYTH: Social Media Makes People Less Social

YadaYadaAdmin Community Posts 13 Comments

Finally, I’m glad that to announce that new research from ExactTarget has burst the bubble of the notion that technology alienates people with their freshly-baked statistics.
It is proven there is a co-relation between increased social media usage and increased offline interaction – as users increase their Facebook and Twitter usage, they also tend to increase […]

Related posts:

  1. Having A Child Makes Moms More Social According to “21st Century Mom,” a 2009 study published…
  2. Followers on Twitter are More Valuable than Facebook Fans The way majority of consumers utilise Facebook and Twitter are…
  3. Study: 80% of People Use Twitter for Business According to a new research from Kamaron Research Institute,…

Comments 13

  1. What do you believe is the ultimate social goal of the gay rights movement (realistically)?
    I think, realistically, asking for actual equality isn’t too much.

    I want to preface this by saying that I believe that religion will wane dramatically in the future so people won’t be influenced by it in the same way they are now. You may disagree with me but that is my view and it colors my opinion of the future accordingly.

    1. The need for the labels of "gay" and "straight" and "bi" will no longer exist. We’ll all be seen as humans with different sexual appetites (you don’t call someone who prefers italian food an "italian food eater" do you?). Which means that a gay child in this country will be introduced to different couples and different forms of human interaction enough that they will not grow up believing that what they feel is intinsically wrong or that they will have repercussions for exposing themselves to be gay or bisexual. When the words stop having consequences they will stop being needed. Which leads to my next goal

    2. A heterosexual man who engages in a satisfying act of homosexual sex will not be viewed any differently than he was before. He won’t be scorned or rejected or made fun of (not even by women who surprisingly can be even crueler than straight men about alleged homosexual activity), he won’t be seen as anything more or less because of his actions. He won’t lose friends, it won’t hurt his chances for female companionship. I think a good example of this is John Mayer recently admitting that he enjoyed making out with Perez Hilton for a while at a party but that he considers himself heterosexual. I believe him, the media believes him, everyone believes him, he’s still dating hollywood actresses and supermodels. This is the attitude America needs on a micrcosmic scale and I believe it’s possible. Which also relates to my next goal.

    3. Straight men will be comfortable in the presence of gay sexuality. I don’t believe that hatred or disgust of homosexuals, or "poison flesh" syndrome (the belief that just touching them or being around them will change you or hurt you in some way) is natural. I believe it’s a symptom of greater problems in our society. I believe it’s a conditioned response. This is why I supported the movie Bruno even as gays criticized it, because gay men (and to a lesser degree lesbians) are afraid of being openly sexual in society. The myth that human beings are not sexual animals and that we all interact professionally with each other 100% of the time is a lie that stacks the deck in favor of heterocentrism. You know it and I know it. Straight people kiss in public, they hold hands and hug each other rest their heads on each others shoulders. Straight people ask each other out and come onto each other and joke about sex. It is because they are humans. Everybody needs that kind of interaction. Gays will not be equal until they can interact the same way (flamboyant gay sexuality is a response to their marginalization. If you take away the stigma and the marginalization you take away the flamboyant desperate nature of gay sexuality and everybody will be respectful to each other)

    4. Gay men will stop viciously criticizing other gay men for not conforming to male stereotypes. Some gay men are naturally masculine, others are naturally feminine, and there is nothing wrong with either. Perhaps I’m biased because I prefer sweet, cute, pretty, feminine men who smell like vanilla and fawn all over me, but I think people should be embraced for what they are. Nothing makes me sadder than the "bitter old queen" type who has never really been treated the way should be and felt deeply desired, valued or loved.

    5. Women will be viewed as 100% equal to men. This should be an absolute central tenet to the gay rights movement because hatred and disdain for anything feminine is a major cause of the hatred generated toward homosexuals, both male and female.

    On a final note, I’d like to say that I don’t believe any of these goals can be reached by the passing of laws or by forcing anybody to do anything. They will be reached by bravery on the side of gays to make themselves more visible and to act as if they are already equals when society tells them they are not. They will be reached by the passage of time and mutual understanding and they will be reached by redefining sex roles and sexuality in a way that is beneficial and more satisfying for everybody, not just gays and lesbians.

    So what do you think?

  2. i hope that someday, if those things do ever happen (which i think they could, to a degree) that i am still alive to see it.
    References :

  3. I think that equality is the wrong answer. We want liberation.
    1: These labels exist and will continue to exist. How will I explain that I am attracted to feminine women? Limiting language is not the answer.
    2: I agree, but I think most anybody should feel ashamed for making out with Perez Hilton.
    3: This also must mean that gay people must feel comfortable with other sexual minorities displaying their orientations in public.
    4: Where I live gay white camp men are the only accepted gay men. I wish to get rid of the idea of "straight acting" gay men.
    5: By saying women will be viewed as 100% equal to men also is not a good idea. Currently women are seen as sex objects and men are slowly becoming objectified. Men are definately limited in what they can do. Men and masculinity has been narrowed down to such a small hole as to what is a man and what isn’t. Gender roles, and gender expression should be free. Any gendered person should feel liberated, and comfortable to have whatever job, wear as they please, etc.

    Visibility alone will not solve this problem.
    References :

  4. I agree with you. To sum it all up: We all just want to be created equal.
    But in a biased, opinionated, freedom of speech and freedom of religion democracy, in a world full of EGO’s… we will not all be seen as equals. We need to educate in order to eliminate prejudice and provoke acceptance in differences.
    References :

  5. equality should be the end result
    anything less would be wrong to seek
    I am also willing to bet that the bigots won’t read what you’ve wrote – I will try to add more tomorrow as I’m tired now
    References :

  6. I agree with pretty much all you said.

    However, there is no need for words like "homosexual", "heterosexual", or "bisexual" to go away. They exist for a reason, and are very concise and convenient terms.
    References :

  7. I don’t agree with you. I think the ultimate goal is basically what you’re saying, i.e. to be viewed and treated no differently than straight people. But I think there are two basic reasons/evidence why that’s never going to be the case:

    1) LGBTs are not going to let it happen. I think LGBTs have this push/pull feeling about being no different than straight people. Some seem to totally want that. Others seem pretty vocal about not wanting it at all, or very expressive in showing how different they are (i.e. gay pride, only hang with gays, being "flamboyant," etc). My observation, though, is the majority seem to SAY that’s how things SHOULD be, but that’s not how they act and they don’t even realize it. The average LGBT thinks way too much about their orientation, and it affects pretty much everything they do and how they interact with people. Like someone else already said, LGBTs even alienate other LGBTs for being too femme gay male, too butch lesbian, bi, etc. If this is the case, then the issue is not just coming from religion or homophobes–it comes from within, as well,. You could say it starts from outside influences, but I also think it’s just human nature to notice what seems to not be the majority because it stands out.

    So, I believe that, deep down, the majority of us understand that we ARE different than straight people and there is nothing wrong with recognizing that…but that the issue is it just needs to be accepted, i.e. not having gay slurs hurled at us, not being physically attacked, etc. And I think that’s something that will always happen, because religion is not the only reason some people have a problem with LGBTs. People have a problem with anything "different," and we have always, always recognized and emphasized differences in society. That’s not going to change and never has. Along the same lines…

    2) Look at race. You say women will be viewed 100% equal to men and you seem to be suggesting the same thing about orientation in the future. But race has been a problem since the beginning of time…and like the gay rights movement, you can look and see lots of strides/progress made with race…but centuries later, race is still a HUGE problem. Anybody who really looks at it that way should come to understand that race is always going to be an issue and minorities will never quite be accepted like whites are. There will always be racial slurs, racial discrimination, someone will always stereotype minorities, someone will always dislike minorities, etc. It’s another example of what I just said re: differences and human nature.

    You have idealistic viewpoints, but your long post is yet another example of what I’m saying. Minorities are often left out of the LGBT community, and you only touch on women and LGBT equality as being essential. What about minorities in the LGBT community, or do you think of minorities as equal in society already–both in hetero society and LGBT society? News for you: we’re not. And go to the Gender & Women’s Studies section on Y!A. It’s overrun by a bunch of angry, hateful men asking hateful questions towards women who just want to be regarded as of equal worth to men…so, again, that’s another place where, despite progress having been made, you will always have people who think a certain way.

    The realistic goal is gaining legal rights and equality in the eyes of the law.
    References :

  8. Idealistically I agree with you, however Realistically I suppose it is the same as the what African Americans sought freedom and to be equal citizens.
    References :

  9. this kind of goal sheet sounds like what goes on in South America already. I know that in Brazil if 2 men have sex with one another neither is considered gay (unless they consider themselves this). That is just the social rule there. Pardon me if I got the country wrong but I know that there is one country that is all this.
    References :

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *